“tough days don’t last, but TOUGH PEOPLE DO.”
I feel like God knows exactly how much you can handle and he knows when you just need something to lift you up. I had a tough past weekend. Maya is really feeling her daddy being gone. The behavior changes I’ve witnessed is OF COURSE the behavior of a normal 3 year old going on 15, but there’s a certain attitude that I feel isn’t normal. So one day at a time, I deal with it and thankfully Daddy is able to be present for brainstorming conversations on how we can make this easier together as a family. Family is SO important to me. My husband is absolutely the best thing I’ve EVER done in my life, next to my daughters. But there are times in your life you need more than family. You need a different kind of support. I write these personal blogs randomly, I know that most photographers have a STRONG blog life, there’s constantly something coming out on social media for everyone to go read and well, I just don’t feel that “me” not yet. So I write what’s in my heart when it’s there to write. Today, there was something to write about.
So, I got this email the other night. I saw it come through from my website and I thought, OH MY GOSH, another wedding inquiry! I’ve been so blessed lately to have things coming in weekly and then I opened the email and it wasn’t about a wedding. I won’t share her name, because it’s not my business to do so. But I’ll share the several sentences she sent me. Which brought tears to my eyes.
It took me about 20 minutes to respond to her. When I did it was pretty theraputic. I told her how much SHE meant to her Marine, and I thanked her. She wrote “you go where love takes you” –what an incredible statement. It’s SO true. I tell Dominic I would follow him to the end of the world if that’s what it took. He and I are such a team. My love for him is so unconditional and I know he would ANYTHING for me. I believe you HAVE to have that kind of love now a days. You shouldn’t settle for love any less!!!! I continued to tell this girl how much it means that she believed in HIM and that HOME is where HE IS. I can imagine how hard it would be to just pick up and go and not know anyone where you land…so I urged her to Network, find friends. POSITIVE ones, she needed to stay healthy and happy while he was gone. The idea that she reached out to ME showed me how loving her heart was and that ANYONE would be dumb not to befriend her!! We went back and forth several more times, her telling me how sweet I was for responding so quickly with as much as I have going on. I just LOL’d and told her I was drinking wine, and binge watching House of Cards on Netflix….and that It was my pleasure. 😉 I would take these emails daily and respond to all of them as fast as I could if they came in!
Life is always hard. It doesn’t matter if you’re a military wife, or a mom or a single girl just working two jobs trying to make ends meet and pay your rent on time. It doesn’t matter if you have 1 mouth to feed or two or four! You’re life is yours, my intention is to never BRAG about how hard my life is or try to prove that my life is harder than yours. I just sometimes type. HOPING someone is listening. HOPING someone cares enough to read, or maybe subscribe to my blog. I told her I NEVER expect to touch people. I never expect to be heard so genuinely that it matters to others. I’ve done so much soul searching while Dominic has been deployed, I’ve begun to journal a couple times a week…writing to my girls, writing to myself. I’ve been reading books on becoming a better me. A better me for ME… my girls, my husband and a better ME for God. No matter your beliefs, I’ve realized that Happiness is contagious. It’s a disease… one that I fought and fought forever. I was too busy “keeping up with the Jones’s” worrying about my friends, the brands, what OTHERS were doing. And when I was pregnant with Addison, it all stopped. I walked away from a lot of things and people. I began a path of true happiness. I began a path of just being ME and so far it’s the best decision I’ve ever made.
So if you’re out there. Thanks for listening. Thank you for taking a moment out of your day to read what I had to say. But the most important thing I hope you get out of my rambling.. is that YOU matter. You’re happiness matters. Make life matter to you. Wake up EVERY morning no matter how bad your day before was and start it FRESH! Life is what YOU make it. There are so many people out there with NOTHING and it’s ok to them. I feel so filled sitting here typing these words. I don’t even know WHERE or HOW I mustarded the energy to change my life the way I did… but I couldn’t be happier.
I’d love to hear from you… if you were listening. Leave a comment below, or shoot me an email firstname.lastname@example.org …. I promise I’ll return it with all the love in my heart.
Make today awesome….
Here’s a quick moment my girls and I had in the snow last week by one of my favorite friends and also kickbutt wedding photographer, Jessica. It’s happy moments like this…. that make me realize I just need them in my life…